Love, Reflect, Anticipate, Repeat!
It’s been a little over 6 months, since graduating college and let me tell you it’s already been quite the journey. A lot of ups and downs. You think (at least I did) that when you graduate you’ve made it, life has started and that you have the world at your feet, ready to be explored! While all of that is true, there is something else called “your own personal journey”.
In these past six months, I’ve probably experienced the most exhausting, the most confusing, and also the most gratifying feelings that I never thought I would experience. Okays so let’s start with who I am as a person… I am Type A! I love to plan—like let me plan your wedding or you next vacation because I seriously find joy in planning, so needless to say planning my life was something that just came naturally to me. The plan was and still is simple: graduate high school-check, go to college and major in theatre and minor in business-check, graduate with said degrees-check, after graduation pursue a career in the film and tv industry—check?I have done and am still doing all of those things. That’s the plan in a nutshell, granted there are a lot more detailed goals within the master plan, but that’s essentially it. Well plans don’t always go the way you want, right? I’ve had a lot of twist and turns already and have learned to not only be flexible, but also pray and know that my journey is in the hands of another. That’s really freaking hard for me! What was the biggest growth experience in college? THAT RIGHT THERE! Letting go of the plan! Have the goals but know things will come in a much more unexpected way. These past 6 months have not been what I expected. It’s my first time living completely on my own, living in a town with so many memories, having to find a new community, and above all else finding out who I am beyond my close friends, family, and school! Even though I’ve lived in the same town for the past 4 and 1/2 years, it all of a sudden seems new and different because my role here has changed. I’m no longer a student, a Greek member, a “college kid”—I’m now a career woman? I am a woman who is certainly working towards her career that’s for sure.
These past months have been hard because my community has changed—the majority of them have moved elsewhere and my parents live much farther away now. That’s been extremely hard for me. While I’m so happy for my friends and their accomplishments and I’m so happy for my parents and their new adventures, I feel, sort of in a way, left behind. I want to be clear, I was not left behind, but it was definitely an adjustment to not have my people so close to me anymore. (I’m sure that’s true for anyone who moves to a new city, not knowing anyone) To the people still in school, my advice is to put the book down or stop studying for at least an hour and go find your people and make memories. I promise you know more than you think you do and those moments with your friends are just as valuable as your GPA! These past few months have been exhausting because of my body and the changes it’s gone through. To go into detail would probably require another blog post but self-care and wellness is not just a fad y’all—it’s extremely important. I’ve been working with a nutritionist for 2 years now and I still find reasons to work with her. My health journey is not over. I’ll say this, your gut is like your second brain. If it’s not healthy, the rest of you is not. I’ve experienced physical and mental exhaustion, higher anxiety, and way less motivation. But because I’m in tune with my body and recognized that those feelings are not normal, I have worked with someone to help correct those feelings with diet changes, different exercise regimens, adding in new supplements and working on my spiritual journey. I’m all about the natural approach as much as possible.
These past few months have been confusing mostly because there is no way to check to see if you’re doing well in life anymore. In school, your grades and your extra-curriculars probably helped determine whether or not “you’re doing great, sweetie”, but in real life you really won’t know until that hindsight kicks in and you see 20/20. All you can do is SHOW UP, WORK HARD, BUILD YOUR COMMUNITY, HOPE/PRAY/SURRENDER, and above all else BE KIND AND LOVING TOYOURSELF AND OTHERS! I put these words in all caps because this is where “the things I’ve learned” comes into play: You can have the grand plan, the goals big and small, but what is going to ease your mind and spirit is take one day at a time. Outline your life—keep it in the back of your mind, or on a word doc or sticky note. But then live your day by following that routine above. Do I do that? HELL NO or at least sort of! I am still working on practicing what I preach, but I have learned that your best will be fulfilled by following those simple steps each day. Things will come your way! People will come into your life when you least expect it, when you need it even! Your timing is not and will never be the same as someone else so stop expecting, start anticipating.
Here’s where these past 6 months have been the most gratifying. I am a person of faith. Whether you believe in that G-O-D (yes I’m slightly quoting the chant from Sister Act 2 #solidmovie) or not keep reading because what I learned in church has completely changed my perspective and is applicable to anyone! Stop living in EXPECTATION but in ANTICIPATION! Stop expecting that if you do good things, work hard, you deserve only good things! Yes, in a way you do, but life also throws curveballs at us—it happens to everyone. Even in the bad, good will come out of it! Lessons will be learned and most likely what has happened to you has already been made into a country song so everything is #relatable. If you follow those steps above and wake up every morning anticipating good things, you will be more equipped to handle the bad when they come! I am grateful for these past 6 months. I have grown so much stronger. I feel awakened all of sudden and ready to work even harder! I was talking with my nutritionist the other day and she said “I sound like I’m alive. I have woken up”. In a way, I have—I have taken care of myself, I’ve done some seriously reflecting. Degrees do not make life easier. Plans are not full proof. And life can best be experienced if you are kind and loving to all! I share this to not gain sympathy or words of affirmation/validation from others; while I’m not uninviting that, my purpose is to share my perspective so that wherever you are at in life, know that you are not alone. Know that your circumstances are temporary, you are loved, and that there is always something to be grateful for! And as for finding a new community, that will happen too! Social media can be toxic, but I also find that it’s a great platform to spread love, ideas, kindness, and realness! I hope you read this and you change your mindset to anticipation and that you pass on some love to someone else—they may need it!
I promise I’m almost done—I like to talk a lot. If you know me at all, you know I should have been named, first name: Chatty, last name: Cathy! I’ll leave you with this: Your journey is yours and no else’s. Your timeline is yours and no one else’s! “Follow Your Arrow”! See I told you everything in life has already been made into a country song!